Brianna Martinson & Garrett Grasser

When: Saturday, February 12th, 2011

Where: VFW, East Grand Forks, MN
1st Dance Song: "When You Say Nothing At All" by Allison Kraus

I was hired for this reception because of another I did not too long ago, where Garrett and Brianna met, the wedding of Jordan and Erin Grasser (Hi, Erin!).

No ceremony today, they got married in Mexico on January 8th. I edited their ceremony video and some pictures into a six minute reel to show their reception guests who, mostly, couldn't make the trip. If you think a wedding on the beach is for you, realize you are likely to be very close to other, non-guest beach-goers, the video will pick up a lot of wind noise, and that sometimes your mom just can't help but film herself digging her toes into the sand in the middle of your ceremony.

Our first hurdle tonight, the VFW has bingo until 5pm, and you don't mess with bingo. When I tried to setup about 2:30, they had already started, but I was able to be ready for the guests by 6pm. Our second issue, which was actually pretty simple, no priest for the prayer, so I got to do it.

We skipped the bouquet because, there wasn't one. Customs wouldn't let Brianna bring hers back into the U.S. without a huge hassle because those flowers could kill you and everyone you ever cared about! Or something. We stuck with a garter auction. For the removal, we stuck Garrett in a Green Bay Packers jersey (he's a fan) and brought him out to their touchdown song ("Bang on the Drum").

I did get to bust out my emergency kit's toothbrush for a certain someone in need.

Attention to detail is important: especially when you notice the groom is busy, so you stall before playing the last slow song of the night so he can enjoy one more dance with his wife.

After everyone had left, and everything was getting packed up, there was a little trouble with the cake. It was falling, and ended on being set down in the parking lot. I didn't stick around to find out what happened, but hopefully it worked out.

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Diana Driscoll & Zach Bopp

When: Saturday, February 5th, 2011

Where: Ramada Inn, Grand Forks, ND
1st Dance Song: "To Make You Feel My Love" by Adele

No pictures, no video from this wedding. I'll leave that to the people who are good at those things. Every vendor was from FreshWed. Photographers Shawna Noel and Kory Wallen; Videographer Corey of Sub-Zero Productions (glad to finally meet him); flowers and decorations by Just Add Water, Brooke Roche. Oh, and me. You just can't go wrong by hiring all of us. In fact, maybe we should make some sort of package deal. Hmm....

I must say, it was nice to see the videographer at the reception. A lot of couples don't hire one, or only have them at the ceremony. I usually use my camera to make sure key moments like the toasts and their first dance are captured. Tonight, I didn't worry.

During dinner we learned that Zach, when he was less than one year old, managed to lift himself out of his crib, and broke his arm in the process. And I was scared of what my two year old could do...

A few random things I took care of: I had Diana's slippers for the reception; I'm the one who washed out and got the box for their brand new, beautiful crystal champagne glasses; and I'm the one who knew where the circuit breaker for their decorative lights was.

Zach and Diana's wedding was at 3pm, at Sacred Heart (yes, Catholic). Dinner wasn't until 6:30, which meant a lot of time for guests to kill. We did our best to have something happen every so often: the bridal party's arrival; shoe game; video; speeches. If the guests were bored from the large gap from ceremony to dinner, they didn't show it. When the dance started, they were right there, ready to go, too.

To give away the garter, we did a raffle. The drawing got us seven or eight contestants to compete. I asked for things, they went and fetched them. Each time they came back, we elimated some. Very simple. Very funny. One groomsmen didn't quite make the chair. Twice. The Best Man thought we had solved the last item, yelled it out, but forgot to actually go and get it. Someone else won. Poor Beau.

We also did a broom dance. No, they aren't common. Everyone in a circle, someone in the middle with a broom dances for a bit, then passes it, and the new holder dances. It's exactly how it sounds, but if everyone is into it, it can be a blast. Especially when a grandma gets wheeled out in her chair to dance.

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Kirby Black & Jake Vossler

When: Saturday, January 1st, 2011

Where: Hilton Garden Inns, Grand Forks, ND
Photographer: Shawna Noel Photographry
1st Dance Song: "A Walk in the Forest" by Brian Crain

First thing you'd notice when arrivng at the reception was an appetizer buffet with two trays being butlered by staff. Very unusual for this area, but very lovely.

The weather interfered with the guest list a bit, but the room was still almost full. Unfortunately, Kirby's two older brothers missed out, getting stuck between Minneapolis and Fargo. Her younger brother, Isaac, stepped up to give their toast instead. Another side story to the storm travel was two cars of guests having a run in with a horse on the highway. Don't worry, everyone made it out okay.

Kirby and Jake took dances lessons, which led them to choose a waltz for their first dance. The results are there in the video.

Champagne toasts were nothing compared to Jake's dad. He brought out an old family tradition. Everyone got a small shot of Redeye. Normally, they would have had a bottomless glass, but the Hilton's liquor license won't allow for that. Free wine and keg beer were substituted instead.

We did a challenge to win the garter. Guys had to fetch items in the room and make it back to their chairs first. A few were racing back just as I pulled their chairs away. Splat, to the floor they went.

Most interesting, I thought, were some storm stories. The bartender, Kelly, had been stuck at the hotel since 5:30am the previous morning, thanks to the blizzard. She was on shift til the end of our wedding dance. The photographers, Shawna and Kory, had spent the entire day trying to get to Grand Forks from Bismarck, since the highway was closed the last 80 miles, they took county roads, and made it just in time to shoot the ceremony. That was after taking a train from Fargo to Minot, then hitching a ride to Bismarck to shoot the wedding the day before. By the end of today, they all just wanted so desperately to get home and get some sleep.

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Jackie Baird & Chad Osowski

When: Friday, November26th, 2010

Where: Community Center, Minto, ND
1st Dance Song: "Better Together" by Jack Johnson

They really decked out the community center. Chair covers, a raised head table with lit backdrop and candlelight. Decorations courtesy Darcy Van Hoff. All three together make a great impression when you walk into such a large room. The raised head table, in particular, is almost necessary if you want to be seen at all.


Since the dance didn't start until after 9pm, we did the dollar dance, bouquet toss, and a garter raffle all in a row, just after 10. The garter raffle got us eight winners, who then competed in a sort of scavenger hunt to determine a winner. Very cutthroat business. When I asked for a picture of the bride and groom, one guy, instead of getting a camera, grapped the four foot tall picture collage display at the greeting table. Well, OK then.

Two different couples I worked for a few years back are here, and both are expecting babies first half of next year. Congratulations, but please don't name him Hershey.

Chad picked their first dance song, and it was held back as a surprise for Jackie. She didn't find out until they walked out onto the floor, which they did during the last 30 seconds of their video slide show. It setup the first part of their first dance with pictures of themselves as the backdrop. I thought it worked very well.

That hat Chad is wearing was a gift earlier in the day. His captain's hat for his fishing boat.

Awesome older song I'll never get to play again but that worked great here: "We Built This City" by Starship I also got to play Nelly's "Country Grammar." Despite how much it played when it came out, I don't think I've heard it or had it requested for at least five years.

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Christie Canfield & Tyler McFarland

When: Saturday, November13th, 2010

Where: A Touch of Magic, East Grand Forks, MN
1st Dance Song: "Then" by Brad Paisley

"Robert, Thank you so much for being a part of our wedding! You did a great job and we truly appreciate it! Happy Thanksgiving!" - Christie & Tyler McFarland

This is my first wedding in a few weeks. To earn the evening out, from 7am to 2pm, I watched both my three week old son and 20-month old daughter so my wife enjoy part of her day.

Christie and Tyler had these very simple, but very elegant centerpieces of yellow leaves on stems. They looked like flowers and fit the fall weather. That seemed how everything was tonight. Simple, elegant, and a perfect fit. Almost effortless (though I doubt it was).

Normally, if a couple is showing a video, I get a copy in advance and take care of things. At a Touch of Magic, that is supposed to be done for you. However, the DVD didn't work with the player, it would have left off the last three minutes. Instead, I took care of it with my gear and managed to get it to work to the end.

Things really got going after 10pm, so Christie had me continue for a little over an extra hour.

Random song request that went over great, but wouldn't ever play anywhere else: T.I.'s "What You Know." I had it, but don't think I've ever played it before. Doubt I will again. That's OK, Tyler and his buddy, Flash, love it. Also, "Forever Your Girl" by Paula Abdul, from Christie's list.

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Get Hitched: A Wedding Show for the Modern Bride

When: 6-9pm Tuesday, November 9th, 2010

Where: Plains Art Museum, Fargo, ND

A big thank you to all who attended (more than 100). It was our first year and went as well as we could have hoped. In all the years and all the shows I've worked, I've never enjoyed it so much. I had a chance to talk with five or six couples at length, but apologies to those who couldn't wait for me to be free.

A special thanks to the organizers, largely photographer Katie Lewis, but also the greatest human beings on the planet, photographer Shawna Noel and Kory Wallen (they may have recommended me to a few of their clients).

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Lindsey Belcher & Derrick Duray

When: Saturday, October 23rd, 2010

Where: Masonic Center, Grand Forks, ND
1st Dance Song: "I Need You" by Tim McGraw & Faith Hill

"Hey Robert! We wanted to say thank you for everything, you did an awesome job at our wedding reception! You were so nice to cater to all of our needs, plus we had a blast with you! If we come across anyone with DJ needs we will recommend you in a second! Thanks again, and congrats to you and your wife on your new baby!! PS Sorry about Andy!!! ;)" -Lindsey and Derrick

Their ceremony was at the Japanese Gardens (behind Altru Hospital) which is where I proposed to my wife. I'm here three days after my son was born but so far I haven't been distracted. Just after the bride and groom arrived, I noticed a red, lollipop+child related spot on Lindsey's dress. Fortunately I carry Shout! Wipes and took care of it very easily.

There are several couples here as guests that I worked for. Even the caterers. Since I was dismissing tables for the buffet, I helped out one couple by holding their beautiful two week old daughter, Stella, so they could hit the buffet line.

I edited both of the parent dances down to two minute versions of "My Wish" by Rascal Flatts and a slow version of "Forever Young" by Rod Stewart. This meant each Lindsey and Derrick got a moment with a parent, but without it taking up 10 minutes of the start of the dance.

We have an early start today, but already, before 8pm, they've requested I go until 12:30am. This is going to be a five and a half hour dance.

Bridesmaid Paige was promoted to Best Man after former Best Man Andy dissappeared a second time (right before the toasts and again before the dollar dance, even though I had told him to sit tight).

Never has there been a better reason to have the husband rather than the winner of the garter, take the garter off the bride's leg. Lindsey's dad won the raffle.

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Our New Son, Jeb

When: Wednesday, October 20th, 2010

I'll be a little extra busy for the next little bit. This morning our son was born (7lbs15oz). Everyone is doing pretty well. I have a wedding Saturday and will try resume a somewhat regular work schedule next week.

His full name is Jebediah Edward Benda. We'll just call him Jeb.

Laura Gaddie & Derek Wentz

When: Saturday, October 16th, 2010

Where: Ramada Inn, Grand Forks, ND
1st Dance Song: "This Year's Love" by David Gray

The first things I noticed when I walked into the Ramada today were the beautiful chocolate colored chair covers, the paper lanterns hanging, and their favors: candyed apples. Which they made themselves. Apples are from her mom's backyard. Laura unwrapped all the caramels herself. 200 candy apples in 4 hours. I think they're nuts.

The wedding party was ready to go when they arrived so we really had fun with the introductions into the ballroom. The issue is, they were also late, so we had to (rather awkwardly) move straight into the prayer for dinner.

I finally got to work with Darrel Deutz again. First time in over a year. He's in my top five favorite photographers (Shawna Noel, Katie Lewis, Brian's Photographry, and Milestone are the other four).

Only about 12 songs on the request list. Most interestingly, Lady Gaga.... for Derek's brother and Dad. Hmm.

They had a Catholic wedding, which are always early. They added extra 75 minutes so the dance could go til 12:30.

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Amy Holm & Casey Lundquist

When: Friday, October 1st, 2010

Where: Alerus Center, Grand Forks, ND
1st Dance Song: "Smile" by Uncle Kracker

"You did a great job at the reception/dance! We've heard so
many great compliments from people that said they had such a
great time! I will definitely continue to recommend you to
other couples! Thanks again!" -Amy Lindquist

Amy is the daughter of Brian Holm, of Brian's Photography (notable enough a man to have a store front on 32nd Ave ever since I started DJ'ing in 1998). Casey is her CaseyBear (sorry, Casey, I had to).

A late start to the evening meant an hor d'eourves buffet instead of proper dinner. Amy and Casey's head table was actually three rounds together in the center of the room. I really liked their display of pictures as you came in. Lots of individual pics in frames scattered across the table.

Amy had a nice list of requests for me to work with. Some younger boys (about seven) kept running over to request songs on behalf of some older guests at a table. Makes it tough to work with since the kids don't really understand what they're asking for.

My favorite moment had to be Amy's dad's toast. The entire thing is too long to repeat here, but he did everything right: he used an old memory of he and Amy when she was little to tell something about her as a person; it was sweet; and it was funny.

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